This isn't the experience we want you to have when trying to connect with our support team, @gregmac13.
Do you have a recent case number for us to look at? This will help us track and check to help investigate this further.
If you don't have a recent case, I encourage you to contact our support team. I know you've tried already, but they are the ones who have the necessary tools to check your account in a safe environment, and can help find the root cause of your issue and find a fix.
Here's how to reach them:
I've added these articles to help you manage banking transactions and resolved unexpected behavior when trying to download your bank transactions:
Keep me posted if you have other questions about connecting and downloading your AMEX transactions with QuickBooks. I'm always here to help. Stay safe always.