another useless answer from the QB Team (Thanks again)...

ONE real solution would be to do what EVERY accounting system does. Allow a batch of expenses to be entered with the date incurred, Then allow the user to go back in and pay the batch, on the real payment date.

Another more painful would be to have each LINE of entry carry it's own date.

Then the expenses line could be dated when incurred (along with a matching credit to A/P), and a payment (cash) line could be the true present date (along with a matching debit to A/P). The QB system should insure that the debits and credits to any date will net 0

QB is extremely frustrating in that they ABSOLUTELY MUST know of this problem, and therefore it's also painfully obvious that they have NO INTENTION of fixing it.