I blew it and I knew it. I botched an introduction. I should have known better.
You might as well learn from my mistakes – right?
Here are three blunders I have personally made – the first one very recently – and the lessons I’ve learned. Yes! Even “the referral coach” gets it wrong from time to time.
This was my blunder from a couple of weeks ago.
During a phone call, I asked a colleague to introduce me to someone. I suggested that he not just send an email to the contact, but create an “email introduction.” Later, in an email, I suggested we discuss what he might say to the contact to present me in the best light and peak the contact’s interest.
Before this conversation went any further, I received an email from my colleague that he has sent a message to the contact and would let me know when he received a reply.
A day or two later, my colleague forwarded a response from the contact that he “wasn’t interested” (in so many words). In this exchange, I learned that my colleague had not provided the type of introduction that would have been best in this situation; the right message, with the right angle, with the right next step.
Lesson Learned: Tell your referral source, “Here’s what I’ve found works the best” and get their agreement to make the introduction in the manner that truly works the best for you (and will still be comfortable for the other parties). NEVER assume someone knows how to describe your value in the right way for any particular circumstance.
I was on the phone with a very happy client. Before I could get the words out of my mouth to discuss a possible introduction, he was already telling me about someone I should contact.
I could tell he was in a bit of a hurry and was about to end the phone call. Should I keep the call going, learn more about the prospect and suggest a true introduction … or do I respect these signals he was sending to me, and settle for a name and phone number?
You could say I “wimped out” or that I “respected his time,” but either way, I hung up with insufficient information to increase the chances of a good connection with this new prospect.
I went to the prospect’s LinkedIn profile and his firm’s website, and learned a few things. I called the prospect twice, leaving short, but hopefully effective messages. I never heard anything back.
Lesson Learned: If you don’t have the time to learn some good information about the prospect that will allow you to leave more relevant and compelling messages, don’t just rush off and call (or email) the prospect. Don’t settle. Find a way – via phone or email – to query your referral source for more information. The most effective questions I like to ask are:
This one happened many years ago and I have not made this mistake again.
A client provided me with three decent introductions. One resulted in a new client, for whom I was going to give a speech about six months out from the time of the introduction.
Knowing I wanted to thank the referral source, I learned that he was a cyclist and rode every week. I purchased a very nice cycling jersey ($80) that I would present to him in front of the group – demonstrating that we should “thank the referral source.”
About five to six weeks before the event, I received an email from the referral source acknowledging that he would see me in a few weeks, but written with the tone that he was surprised to learn that I “got the engagement” when he saw the promotion for the event.
When I saw him before the speech, he was slightly distant in his demeanor; which was uncharacteristic to the way he normally is.
What saved me in this situation was the presentation of my thank you gift to him. He appreciated the fact that I learned about his passion for cycling and tailored my thank you to him. The audience applauded and his demeanor was back to normal. Whew!
Lesson Learned: Always keep your referral source in the loop. You don’t have to overdo it, but an occasional email update is highly appreciated by the referral source.
How you get introduced, what you learn, and how you follow through with referrals and introductions truly does make a difference to the results you will produce and your ability to remain referable (or should I say “Introducable?”) in the eyes of your clients and centers of influence.
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